Hope For Homeschoolers

glitter-graphics.comYesterday, I stumbled upon a story called “The Invisible Mommy”.  It was a touching story, but it made me think.  Many mommies feel invisible, because it seems that they only have time to take care of others, and never enough time for themselves.  I can remember a time when I felt this way, but I was a much younger mommy.  I look back at some of my new mommy days and I feel sorry for my oldest child, who had to bear the task of training her new mommy.  I also had to work outside the home, so that created some very difficult days for us.  Since then, I have been blessed with two more baby girls, a girl scout unit and a baton twirling team.  I have come to the realization that the problem that many mothers face is not that they are feeling invisible, but that they are feeling TOO visible.  In other words, they are frustrated by the continuous demands on their time and space.  This varies from one mother to the next.  I known mothers that call themselves “too busy” when they don’t do even a fraction of what some other mothers do.  I have known other mothers that can do everything that they want to do, have more children than the “too busy” mother, yet always seem to have time.  I feel that I fall into the second category, because I do so many things throughout the day, including working from home, yet I never feel like I am running too fast.  There are days, however, that  I do get tired, and have to remember to rest, and there are days when I have become TOO visible and have to retreat.  Perhaps the difference in the first and second group is that the second group of mommies recognize that they are doing exactly what they want to do each and every day, whereas the first group thinks that they are doing what they have to do.  There is a vast difference in the two attitudes.  At an insurance sales school that I attended during my working mommy days, my teacher said that we needed to change our words from “I have to….” to “I get to….”  I get to work.  I get to home school my children.  I get to attend their girl scout meeting.  I get to help out with their fundraiser.  I get to bake cupcakes for the party.  When you “get to” do things for your family, it makes everything seem much easier to do, and suddenly, you don’t feel invisible.

Have a Great Day!

Laurel Santiago

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